Motivational guru Jim Rohn:

You are the average of the 5 people with whom you spend the most time.

Is this true?

From my own personal experience, I know that when I’m around people who are upbeat, positive, and energetic, I can feel their energy and it’s a great feeling to be around them. Positive people tend to make me feel better about myself and I forget about my own problems.

The company we keep can have a profound effect on us. We often don’t realize the extent to which the people around us influence our actions, our behavior, and our outlook on life.

While most great friendships are symbiotic, allowing us to bring out the best in one another, that is not always the case.

Surround yourself with the best of the best

I have learned through the years that if we surround ourselves with positive, uplifting people, we are more likely to mirror their behavior.

Similarly, if we spend most of our time with negative people who are constantly complaining and focused on their problems, then it’s very likely that our own attitude will reflect that, and our energy level will begin to decline.

In short, the people around you matter. Some build you up and inspire you, and others simply bring you down.

What to do with the people who bring you down

I don’t believe we should cut people out of our lives when they bring us down, but we should be cognizant of the effect they are having on us, and do what is needed to minimize the impact. You have a choice. You can choose to spend your time with positive, uplifting people or you can choose to spend your time with negative people.

But no, you shouldn’t be ditching your friends except in a few extreme circumstances.

How are you affecting others?

It’s just as important to be cognizant of who you are helping, inspiring and holding to a higher standard. A few things to think about:

  • Is there someone whose average you’re bringing down?
  • What else can you bring to other people’s lives to help them?
  • Are your friendships symbiotic and mutually beneficial in terms of positive life impact?

Who are your Top 5?

Take a few minutes today and think about your top 5. Who are the five people with whom you spend most of your time? Are they helping or hindering you? Do they lift you up or do they bring you down?

I hope you are spending time with people who encourage your dreams and enable you to become your absolute best.

At the same time, let’s remember to be the inspiration and encouragement in the lives of those around us

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